Socialization in a Tech-Driven Era: What Are We Really Losing?

Navigating Connections in the Digital Age

Recently, I came across an eye-opening Instagram reel that struck a deep chord with me. The video raises a growing concern that many of us in education, youth development, and etiquette training have been noticing for quite some time: our children are struggling to socialize.

As a professional etiquette and protocol instructor with over two decades of experience, I’ve watched this shift unfold slowly—but surely. The decline in natural social interaction among youth is not caused by a single factor. It’s a multiplicity of reasons.

Yes, we can point to the advancement of AI technology, and certainly, the way children now learn, communicate, and interact is different than it was even 10 years ago. However, we must also consider the changing family dynamic. Many households are grappling with time constraints, stress, and a growing reliance on screens to “babysit” or occupy young minds.

But here’s the critical point: communication as a whole has changed—not is changing, has already changed, and will continue to evolve. The question we must now ask ourselves is: Can we adapt and advance without becoming muted or socially laggard?

I believe we can. But it starts with intentional exposure and opportunities for kids to practice socializing—outside of a screen.

Over the years, I’ve seen students who were bright and capable struggle to maintain eye contact, hold conversations, or even introduce themselves properly. What once were basic social skills now feel like advanced training. This isn’t about blame—it’s about building bridges back to connection.

For extroverted teens, this might mean involvement in community clubs, sports, youth forums, or performance arts. For our introverted youth, the solution doesn’t need to be drastic. Something as simple and structured as an etiquette class, a mentorship group, or even a part-time job can go a long way in developing confidence, awareness, and communication skills. These environments help reinforce the soft skills that are so often lost in today's digital-first world.

This isn’t just a school issue, a tech issue, or a home issue. It’s a community issue. And community means all of us—parents, mentors, teachers, business owners, faith leaders—committing to creating more moments where our youth can show up, speak up, and stand out.

What happens to a generation when “likes” replace conversations and emojis replace emotions? Are we raising brilliant minds who are emotionally distant, or can we still shape this generation to lead with both intelligence and emotional fluency?

Through my work at Avenues of Excellence Finishing School and our Red-Carpet Girl® Mentoring Program, I’ve seen the transformation that happens when young people are simply given the tools and space to grow socially. If you’re interested in resources or support, let’s talk—we’re all in this together.

What’s your take? Do you believe today’s children are becoming socially muted? Is technology solely to blame? How do you think we can reverse the lag in communication skills?

Leave a comment below and share your thoughts. I’d love to hear from parents, educators, community leaders—and even teens themselves.